confusedapprentice:

silver-tongues-blog:

katatles-the-fish:

trauma-suggestion:

lapvslazuli:

silvernis:

samwellhaus:

knightofthestars:

so hey who else was taught as a kid that “”””wanting attention”””” in any way was wrong and shameful and has grown up unable ask for help or support even in great distress/suffering

Parent: why do you never come to me for help

(two days later)

Me: I need help with something

Parent: CAN’T YOU SEE I’M BUSY WHY CAN’T YOU DO ANYTHING BY YOURSELF GOD YOU’RE SO-

Me: never mind

And don’t forget the You Can Tell Me Anything (Except Things I Don’t Want to Hear)™.

Bonus round of You Can Tell Me Anything (But If I Don’t Like It You’re In Big Trouble Even If You’re Asking For Help)

I’m Always Here For You! (Until You Upset Me In Any Way)™.

I’m lucky to have such a well behaved kid! (Until you make one tiny slip up and I yell at you for being dysfunctional)™

i’ll help you if you ask (unless its something that i consider easy in which case i’ll make you feel bad and think youre a dumbass for not knowing it even though its something i never taught you)

You’re doing great and you’re very good I’m glad you’re helping me out ( until you drop something or bring me the wrong thing, then you’re a clumsy useless child and can’t do anything well)

Also I’ll give you the option to decide to either come with me/help me with something or not and I’ll do it alone ( but if you’ll say no I’ll make you feel really bad and say that you don’t want to spend time with me)

For anyone confused about why they feel so off about their parent(s) even though their parent(s) never physically hurt them: all the above examples are textbook emotional abuse.